As parents, we must decide what our own values and attitudes towards drinking are.
Alcohol (for adults) is not illegal and there are no laws that prohibit drinking in front of children. And let’s face it, it’s not always realistic to abstain in front of them. There are just some things adults are allowed to do that children and teens are not! Still, it is worth considering what kind of message we are sending to our children when we say “no drinking” yet we drink.
Guest mom Merriam shares why she will never drink alcohol in front of her children…
I’m the irreversibly proud mother of 3 beautiful kids, ages 2, 4 and 10. I have a husband who works hard, and I work hard too, but if it wasn’t for my husband I wouldn’t be fortunate enough to be a stay home mom. My husband is an amazing man with one immense struggle: he has had a drinking problem for years. This problem is something we have tried to be open and honest about with ourselves, as well as with our oldest daughter Abby. We work hard together to get through the ups and the downs. And I have done everything in my power as a mother to make sure our children do not end up going down the same path as their father. If my husband cannot set the example I want set for our children, then I alone will.
This you see, is why I will NEVER, NEVER, EVER will drink alcohol in front of my kids.
Are you thinking I’m an extreme mom? For a moment, try to put aside the obvious irresponsible actions that you absolutely would not do in front of your children when it comes to drinking, like drinking and driving for instance.
I know that for my husband, he watched his mother and father abuse alcohol when he was younger. Many of us like to have a drink when we get home from work. A glass of wine or an ice cold beer at a party is fine and all, but does ever anyone stop and think about what that looks like in front of our children?
Doesn’t it give them a mixed signal when they see mom and dad drinking, and then we go and tell them drinking is bad for them?
Do you drink in front of your children? Do you feel comfortable taking your children to a restaurant and having a drink or taking them to a party where other family members will be drinking? If so, I ask that you see my unique family situation as a possible outcome of what drinking in front of your children could potentially do. Alcohol is no different from drugs. It is just as addicting and has the power to pull a family apart. Take it from me.
Is it OK to drink in front of your children? And, if so, what’s the best way to go about it, while still setting a good example?