Warning: the video footage is disturbing and graphic.
An alarming YouTube video has gone viral. It was posted by Hillary Adams, the daughter of Aransas County Court-At-Law Judge, William Adams. The video shows Judge Williams viciously beating his disabled daughter in 2004 when she was 16.
The video is lengthy, and unbearable to watch at some points.
Mom and Newburgh Mama blog writer, Courtney Bonfante, would like to weigh-in on how she feels about this rather disturbing video.
“Bend Over And Take it Like A Woman!?”
So, I recently came across this story about Judge William Adams who was “allegedly” caught on camera beating (well, more like horse-whipping) his 16 year old daughter, Hillary Adams. Oh, by the way, she has Cerebral Palsy, too.
I’d bet this story is going to get a lot of national attention and pretty quickly. The Youtube video went from 300 views to over 350,000 nearly over-night.
I’ll spare the standard “How crazy is this guy? This is horrible, etc. etc.” diatribute since anyone with half a brain could probably figure that out without having to hear my opinions on the subject at hand.
But here’s where it gets me: according to Hillary Adams, the young woman being abused in the video, who uploaded it (again, “allegedly” as this is all pretty new) states:
“The judge’s wife was emotionally abused herself and was severely manipulated into assisting the beating and should not be blamed for any content in this video. The judge’s wife has since left the marriage due to the abuse, which continues to this day, and has sincerely apologized and repented for her part and for allowing such a thing, long before this video was even revealed to exist”
Mama dukes actually grabs the belt out of her husband’s hand at one point and puts even more force behind her blows than does Dad.
Oh, AND she gives her the wise motherly advice to “bend over and take it like a woman.”
There’s much that bothers me about this video – and I think most of it is pretty self-explanatory. However, that comment gets me the most. I guess it’s because I have to worry about all the various ways our culture tells our girls to “bend over and take it like a woman,” between the hyper-sexualization of our youth (hello- Miley Cyrus’ baby sister’s lingerie line), our standards of beauty, the Madonna/whore dichotomy, our glass ceilings…need I go on?
Even though my daughter is a mere 3 years old, I’m already concerned about the “bend over and take it like a woman” sociological subliminal messages she gets everyday and constantly have to combat it, so to hear a mother actually say that to her daughter (whilst beating the tar out her), makes my stomach churn.
I am positive that this story will gain massive media attention, and I can see the scandal now: “Judge William Adams – who is supposed to be a pillar of society and a reflection of our nation’s commitment to fair justice is a closet child abusing jerk.” And well does he deserve that title. EDIT: I also just learned that not ONLY is he a Judge – he is a FAMILY COURT judge. I mean, really – who better than to protect abused children than this idiot??
However, I fear that Mom is going to slip by unscathed – or at least be excused for reasons of “emotional abuse under a master manipulator.”
I’m sorry, but I don’t care if you are a close friend, relative or my own husband (and father of my child), if I catch you beating my child with a belt, the only reason I am going to be grabbing it out of your hand is so that I can put it around your neck and tighten it until blood spews.
Indeed, I’d love to tell you Hillary Adam’s mother’s name/Judge William Adams’ wife’s name and publicly put a name/face to this monster – but I can’t seem to find it.
Judge William Adams, however, is currently the first thing that pops up as soon as you put “Judge..” into Google this morning. Why does Mom get to escape the backlash, public fury and potential child abuse charges that soooo should be coming her way?
I mean if you going to tell your kid to “bend over and take it like a woman” you should be able to do the same.
Judge Adams has been quoted saying “sorry but the attack was not as bad as it looks.” Well, sometimes sorry just isn’t good enough.
It’s amazing that this brave young woman had the instincts and the courage to record her abuse. If only her mother had the same instincts and courage.
What do you think about all this? Should the mother be absolved from any wrong-doing?