You know those times when you’re barely holding on by a thread, ready to break down, feeling like your life couldn’t possibly get any more chaotic, when all of a sudden something grabs you, opens your eyes and makes everything stand still, just for one beautiful moment.
Transcendental bliss in the brush of your child’s little hand, glorious laughter in the ridiculousness of it all, unending love in a hiccup…
Those are the moments we live for as parents. Those are the magical moments in this crazy journey we call parenting—the moments when the veil is lifted, and we are truly able to see our fortune.
Mommy blogger Glennon Melton couldn’t have said it any better in her article, Don’t Carpe Diem.
In it she talks about how frustrated she feels every time someone tells her that she needs to enjoy every moment of her childrens’ formative years to the fullest. She writes:
“Last week, a woman approached me in the Target line and said the following: ‘Sugar, I hope you are enjoying this. I loved every single second of parenting my two girls. Every single moment. These days go by so fast’ …. I just looked at the woman, smiled and said, ‘Thank you’ ….That’s not exactly what I wanted to say, though. There was a famous writer who, when asked if he loved writing, replied, ‘No, but I love having written.’ What I wanted to say to this sweet woman was, ‘Are you sure? Are you sure you don’t mean you love having parented?’”
No doubt, we all want to live each moment to the fullest. But let’s get real: as a parent, some moments are just plain exhausting. As Melton says:
“Parenting is hard. Just like lots of important jobs are hard. Why is it that the second a mother admits that it’s hard, people feel the need to suggest that maybe she’s not doing it right? Or that she certainly shouldn’t add more to her load. Maybe the fact that it’s so hard means she IS doing it right…in her own way…and she happens to be honest.”
Such a great point! Here at iHeartMoms, we receive so many questions from worried moms who are afraid they’re not doing a good enough job at parenting. Our response is almost always the same: admitting that you don’t know what to do, and the mere act of reaching out and asking for help makes you an amazing parent, hands down!
Nobody ever said parenting was easy. Nobody ever said you would have all the answers. And let’s face it: nobody—not even Martha Stewart—can say they “Carpe Diemed” all throughout their children’s formative years.
Clearly, Carpe Diem doesn’t quite work on a parent’s clock! So what does? Melton explains how she lives life in Kairos moments:
“There are two different types of time. Chronos time is what we live in. It’s regular time, it’s one minute at a time, it’s staring down the clock till bedtime time, it’s ten excruciating minutes in the Target line time, it’s four screaming minutes in time out time, it’s two hours till daddy gets home time. Chronos is the hard, slow passing time we parents often live in.
Then there’s Kairos time. Kairos is God’s time. It’s time outside of time. It’s metaphysical time. It’s those magical moments in which time stands still. I have a few of those moments each day. And I cherish them.”
How many times a day do you read about a stranger’s life and feel completely connected? …Like they lifted the words straight from your tongue and arranged them perfectly on the page? Bravo to Melton for a fabulous article and for giving us something we can all totally relate to—on a million different levels.
Please, comment below and tell us about one (or more!) of your beautiful Kairos moments.