Tackling Your Child’s Complaints

The way children think and act in a situation is way too different from an adult’s perspective. Because of this, what is rational to the kids already drives their parents crazy.

They complain, whine, get frustrated and even turn to tantrums most of the time. Although this is seen as madness by most people, we should be comforted by the fact that this is part of a child’s normal behavioral development.

Parents play a big factor in shaping a child’s behavior and character on his or her growing up years. In the same manner, how parents respond to the child’s complaints will ultimately affect how a child comprehends a certain situation.

When children complain a lot, parents are sometimes pushed to their limits that they respond in negative ways, only to fuel up the child’s “madness”. Sequentially, parents become more irritated so as a no-win situation takes place.

Here are some of the effective ways of dealing with a child’s complaints and annoying demands as approved by experts.

  • Fairness Vs Sameness: “Why am I not allowed to stay up late?”.  When your child asks this question, you can respond by making him or her understand that every child has his or her own needs–where in a younger child needs more sleeping time than an older child.
  • “They have new toys, I have none.” A child will usually compare what he or she has to what other kids have. The parents can respond by asking the child how he or she feels about the situation, and explain how families differ in terms of principles and rules. Give a positive light on the conversation by focusing on what he or she has, rather on what he or she does not have.
  • “Why is he good at drawing, and I am not?” Just like material things, kids often notice another child’s special skills. This is actually a great opportunity to ask your child what he or she is good at, while explaining that children differ from each other. While making the child feel unique as herself/himself, it is also a good time to teach him or her how to set achievable goals.
  • The Tooth Fairy Question: “Why did I only get a dollar for my tooth and my cousin got more?” Almost every child knows that he or she will receive a dollar in exchange for a tooth, so knowing that another child got more may cause confusion. Experts say that the best way to handle this is to tell the child that the Tooth Fairy likes all children equally. Instead of negating the negative, steer the conversation into something that’s positive and productive.

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